The ego presumes to be separate from others, living a separate life, hidden in the darkness of your 'private' corners of mind, as if there are walls in consciousness that keep 'me' separate from 'others'. This is kind of life is born from a false sense of self (pseudo separate unique and other than), and that life is lived in all relationships, including one's experience of death. Unless True Self is Faithfully noticed, acknowledged, and identified As (through the Spiritual process), a person will continue to live the life of separation and otherness after death (of the flesh). Death does not force you to Realize God/Self and Truth, death is another opportunity, it is an opportunity to release 'self' into the Brightness of the Transcendent Light of Reality. 

At death you may See your Guru or Spiritual teacher there calling you into the Light. Furthermore, the message at death is no different than the one you heard while alive. The only difference is that the individual has the opportunity, in the most extreme of circumstances, to See God and Self 'face to face' in the absence of a veil of bodily form. Yet, Truth Revealed Demonstrates that EVERY moment of life is a Perfect Opportunity to Realize Self (beyond and AS the veil of bodily form), and Enter the Divine Process of bodily Transformation and Transfiguration through the Divine (God Given) Grace of Transcending death in all forms. 

Death should be embraced while living, and the processes of death (the moment to moment living opportunity of ego death) should be entered into while breathing, and ego death is something to be processed (fully~completely) while alive in the flesh. Life after death will simply manifest the world to 'your' point of view in other ways you are not accustomed while alive in the flesh; however, the individual will continue to live and experience reality through the same (false) sense of self if death (itself) is not Transcended Perfectly. If death cannot free you of the separative self, death will only be a transition from one bodily (false) sense of self to another. Transcend death, in all of its forms, while alive in the flesh; right here right now, on Earth, is the Perfect Opportunity to Transcend and become Free of death. 

God Bless.